As a Gay Man, The Hypocrisy of the LGBT Community Really Ticks Me Off
by Jason Vaughn on April 9, 2015 at 2:48 PM
For those that don’t know me, my name is Jason Vaughn and I am a celibate Christian homosexual. I don’t really know how to describe it as some say I shouldn’t associate myself as a gay man. I use it that way instead of “reformed homosexual” or “former homosexual” because I want to be clear that it is still a temptation I have to fight regularly and one I have failed at many times.
I became sexually active very young, and I was also in Church and considered myself a Christian at the same time. Was I really saved? I don’t know. What I do know is that at 19, by the grace of God, I stopped sleeping around and started striving for celibacy. I “came out” five years ago on a YouTube video. Before that about eighteen people on earth had ever known I was gay, and I had sex with most of them.
When I made my testimonial video, it went somewhat viral receiving tens of thousands of views. First it spread through Christian and church groups and I received a lot of praise. That was unsettling. I didn’t know what to expect from Christians and I’d bought into the lie that they were hateful and spiteful and wouldn’t understand. That was not how it turned out at all. The reality was beautiful and moving and I’d never felt such a weight lifted off and such acceptance. I remember only one person who called themselves a Christian attacking me online. Even since then there have only been a handful of people who have had a negative reaction. Sadly, one is a well known political activist who decided to tell people that since I'm gay and an entertainer (a professional balloon artist) I must be a pedophile, but that person is known by most with eyes to see a hateful and racist bigot anyway. Overall, the issue is ignored by most and many appreciate me speaking out.
A few months after it had been posted a famous gay YouTuber found it and made a response video. His response was actually pretty nice. He merely focused on the idea that he had never really been raised around Christians and wasn’t sure if this thought was normal or what. He linked to the video and then the fun began. Hundreds of comments poured in, and while some of them expressed a pity for me “having to live a lie” or for “never knowing love,” the vast majority consisted of some form of “You pathetic, fat, f****ing faggot. I hope you die and meet your fake fairy in the sky.” I wish I had screen caps of this for evidence, but after a while the guy running the testimonial site shut off comments because he had a lot of family viewers and wanted to respect them. I understand that, but I wish I could show the “tolerance” that I was given by those guys.
I actually get why they were so upset. It kind of ruins the narrative, doesn’t it? An accepted gay Christian in the church? Yes, I’m celibate, but under the narrative they’ve told themselves for much of their lives, I should still be rejected. Their only real defense is that it’s because I’m fat and can’t get laid. Yeah, because there are no sexually active fat gay men (that's sarcasm for those not familiar with gay culture or the term “chaser”).
Since coming out I’ve made a lot of friends that are either openly gay, secretly tempted with same sex attraction, or fighting for celibacy like me. Several young people have come to me and asked for advice on dealing with this. It’s not easy. I’m still tempted with same sex attraction and probably always will be. It doesn't get easier and the last year has been the hardest and most confusing. I’ve made plenty of mistakes sexually. I just continue to look to Christ daily and trust Him to keep me.
So that is my history and story. I wanted you to know that because I wanted you to understand why this issue matters to me, and I wanted to reveal the lens I see the world through. Along with being a celibate, gay Christian, I’m also a libertarian-leaning Republican. For the most part, I think government should stay out of pretty much everything. That includes marriage. As a friend of mine says, “I believe marriage is between God, one man, and one woman. God and government may start with the same to letters, but they’re not the same.” That is probably the least popular stance you can take as most people demand you believe that the government must be involved and either can only recognize heterosexual marriage or on the other side that the government must allow same sex marriage. I say the government gets out of the marriage business altogether.
I believe freedom is a God-given right to all people and unless you’re physically hurting someone else then it is none of the government’s business and they should stay out of it. This includes that business owners should have the right to serve or discriminate against who they wish.
Last year, I watched one of the most horrible pieces of conservative marketing of legislation come out of Arizona when they tried to pass a law clarifying that small business owners could choose not to serve certain people for certain events. Last month, we saw a similar bill come out and actually pass in Indiana before being “clarified.”
Specifically, these bills aimed to protect entrepreneurs like bakers and photographers who didn’t want to use their talents in gay weddings, commitment ceremonies, pride parades, etc. This was already law, but with so many stories of lawsuits being taken out on small business owners, the legislature saw need to clarify the protection with this bill.
This was a complete marketing farce though. Before this ever hit the news, they should have gathered the t-shirt printer who was sued for not wanting to print shirts for a gay pride parade, the baker who referred the gay couple to another baker for their wedding cake, the photographer who was sued for not wanting to use her art for a commitment ceremony, and all the others around the country. Instead, this was shaped by the media as a “We Hate Gays” bill and was made out to be the Republican version of the Democrat’s Jim Crow laws which forced (it was not up to the business owner) segregation. In reality, these were needed to protect business owners.
You don’t give up your rights when you start a business. It used to be that the majority of people in this country owned their own business in some way or worked in a family business so that was understood. So few people take the risk of starting something on their own that it seems we’ve made an easy target of the minority that have the guts to do so.
A while back, I was contacted by a group that was putting on a “fetish ball” and wanted me to create some obscene balloon sculptures. This is not the image I want to put out for my business so I referred them to another decorator that would be willing to do that sort of thing. No lawsuits needed. So why when the same thing happened to a t-shirt printer who said he didn’t want to print shirts for a gay parade and referred them to someone else why did the organizer bring a lawsuit against them for discrimination? Because many activists in the LGBT community don’t want liberty. They demand your full acceptance or will use everything to shut you down.
Don’t believe me? Take one of the latest campaign from gay activists. Last year, the company that built the Firefox browser, Mozilla, hired Brenden Eich as their new CEO. Eich happens to disagree with me and believes government should be involved in marriage and supported Prop 8 in California. Well, this is the biggest boogie men of all for gays. If anybody supported Prop 8 then they might as well have been part of beating Matthew Shepherd to death because you know they would really love to all take part in killing a gay kid… /s
Eich had done nothing at Mozilla against the gay community and holds it as a personal belief, but apparently since those personal beliefs are different from relationship site OKCupid and activists like George Takei then calling for companies to discriminate against them is perfectly okay. They also supported the suspension of Phil Robertson of Duck Dynasty from A&E and don’t get me started on Chick-Fil-A!
This is truly insane! How can you ask a company to discriminate against someone for their religious/cultural beliefs and thoughts and at the same time demand a boycott of state for protected small businesses for doing the same? Either you believe in liberty or you don’t! I completely support the right of photographers not to photograph a gay wedding. I support the rights of activist to boycott Mozilla and call for the firing of Brendan Eich because they don’t like his views on marriage.
What I despise is the hypocrisy of demanding government protection for one form of discrimination but rallying around another!
Stop trying to have it both ways. Lean on liberty. If you disagree with someone, then don’t support them. If you don’t like a product or business practices, then boycott and make your case to others. If you do like what people are doing, then support them. Rally others around them and use their products or services.
But whatever you do, don’t be a hypocritical bigot about it.